I was recently supported in a Hakomi Therapy process that gave
me a breakthrough around what’s been stopping me from
promoting my work.
It was the last day of our second year of training and the invitation was to partner up and explore what we were creating in our professional life moving forward.
We isolated the moment when someone asks me, “What do you do?”
I could feel my heart quicken and jump upward in my chest while my upper back had the sensation of already running away. Because what I want to respond with includes the words “intimacy and sexuality.”
Ooof. I just witnessed a rough interaction.
I was sitting at a communal table at a busy Starbucks and a man and woman, both in their mid 20’s, entered. Without buying a drink, they sat down next to me and across from each other. He pulled out and set in front of him a yellow pad, which I never saw him write on. There was a moment of awkwardness as they settled in their seats and then he dove in.
"Have you ever had sexual relations with one of your employees?"
"No!" She responded, clearly caught completely off guard. He asked her a few more questions. I gathered from the exchange that she's a manager at a corporate restaurant.
Then he pulled out of his nylon briefcase legal sized color photocopies of screen shots of a text exchange between Jose and...
Is when a partner can pick you over the cacophony.
When the presence of you is distinct enough to pierce through distraction.
And provide a beacon of haven delighting for a soul.
It is when you can light an individual more beautifully
than they have ever been lit before.
And then understand that they are not meant for your gazing alone.
Is transparency suspended on a spine of integrity
Where that light shines through unobstructed
By shame, need, or fear.
It is when you hold someone with all the certain strength of Love.
And in the embrace of you there is still room to dance.
Is found in nurturing reflection of radiance
Like in a room full of mirrors
Back and forth, back and forth, back and forth…
Be what you want to attract